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Conscious Kink - BDSM Session

 

You may have an inkling. An inexplicable knowing that you'd like to go deeper into yourself through bdsm. It's more than just a curiosity. And it's more than merely a sexual fantasy. It's a desire to liberate yourself... and to heal.

Conscious kink or bdsm is not about pain or power; it's about being held, in a safe space, where you can fully surrender so that you can meet new parts of yourself that may have been repressed. It's a journey in its own.

What journey is waiting for you?

Let's find out together what would serve you best.

 

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The Healing Powers
of Conscious Kink

Presence | Safety | Intimacy | Liberation | Healing

What is BDSM and what is kink?

Little do they know... that kink and BDSM are só much more than whips and gags. Yes, there's a stigma. Fortunately, you've landed here where you can open your mind to a new way of looking at the healing powers of these worlds.

So what are they? BDSM is an abbreviation of bondage, discipline, Dominance/submission, sadism and masochism. This is where power play becomes a part of the equation.

Kink includes a broader activities that may not be considered mainstream, yet there's no power play included. 

In either case, they both require mutual consent and creating a safe(st) space where all boundaries are clearly expressed and honored, while desires can be brought in. 

Beyond the sexual, into healing

BDSM and kink are often considered to be erotic or sexual explorations. The truth is that it goes a lot deeper than that; BDSM / kink can be an entrance into different parts of yourself that long to be seen, given space or even healed.

I consider this work to be deeply nourishing and healing. The modality or the tool is not the main event; it is much more about the energy of the space we create together. Tháts where transformation happens. 

I highly value creating a space where you can feel deeply carried and safe. A place where you feel welcome and loved - even when I bring our my inner Dominatrix. One doesn't have to exist without the other. The wholeness of the experience brings about wholeness within.

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“For me, being a dominatrix is never about being a cold, heartless bitch with a whip. I believe warmth, love and unwavering presence are the qualities that allow me to create a unique, safe space for my clients. That's what helps them to surrender.”

"What would you like to experience?"

It’s the first question I’ll ask you. We will tune in together to figure out the details, yet you may want to think about your intention. Why do you feel this calling you?

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… Every BDSM or kink session is different and might bring up different emotions or experiences. This is the beauty of it. We decide together what you want to focus on and we'll take it from there. 

 

Let's take a closer look
at some options...

 

Impact Play

Impact play includes the different ways in which you can impact the body with (high) force. Think of slapping body parts with the hands, or using tools such as a whip, paddle, flogger or cane.

In the practical sense, the intention of impact play is to create an instant, short, highly impactful sensation that is often perceived as a blissful mix of pain and pleasure.

However, on an emotional, mental and spiritual level, impact play invites you to move through different layers within yourself. When executed with utmost presence, love and attention, you will notice that this type of BDSM or kink session can take you out of your head, into your body and even into a deep meditative space. 

  • Learning to let go of control and surrender deeper
  • Creating new, positive imprints with your body.
  • Liberating hidden desires
  • Building a higher level of acceptance within yourself
  • Releasing stuck energy
  • Reviving your connection to yourself and the divine

...impact play can support you in many ways.

Sensation Play

Sensation play includes touch and other sensory experiences that help you in becoming more connected to your body, relax deeper into the unknown, restore your body's sensitivity and possibly reignite your sexual energy. Often, sensation play is part of a BDSM or kink session, not the main focus. 

Through different forms of touch, playing with pressure, speed, focus and intensity, you may experience that your body becomes more receptive to different sensations which may even open up different emotions within you. Excitement, joy, but also sadness or shame may appear to the surface: all is welcome. 

Combining this with sound, visuals, scent and taste may help you to reconnect to your sensuality in a safe, held way. 

Please know all touch is one-way only: from me to you. If you feel like you want to be prepared well, check my boundary page here.

 

D/s dynamics

In a D/s (Dominant / submissive) dynamic I step into the energy of my inner Dominatrix, so that you can fully be led by my me. Yes, I will tell you what to do and I expect you to obey. Obviously, within full range of what we agreed upon. 

The D/s dynamic is primarily energetic, rather than physical. Even a commanding look can be enough when given with full presence and clarity. Having said that, this energy often creates a base for other modalities including impact play, sensation play or shibari

Why would you give away control like that? Because it can be very relaxing, even meditative, to surrender to the leadership - even dominance - of a professional. You may want to fully let go of control, heal potential trust issues or create new imprints around (healthy) authority. 

Please consider that if your intention is erotic or sexual only, I recommend you explore this with a lover. 

Shibari

Shibari: the Japanese art of bondage. It might sound like a paradox, but being tied up by somebody who is fully present with you and holds you in the process, can be exquisitely liberating.

The act of surrendering is an art in itself. And yet, it can deepen your ability to trust. To feel safe with what is here; even when emotions, fears or hidden desires appear.

Shibari is a wonderful tool to reconnect with your body, heighten your senses and lovingly face your shadows. The ropes are like an extension of my arms, holding you in the process.

Learn more about Shibari here.

 

Perhaps you may want to know this... Having been a communication specialist and (personal) leadership coach for many years now, and having investing loads in my personal and spiritual (tantric!) development, I happily bring in my wisdom and verbal coaching skills too. More about me here.

 
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It takes a lot of Trust

To be touched, supported and held by somebody you haven't met before. 
Especially when it comes to rope play, sacred BDSM or tantric touch, you want to feel safe. 
So here's my promise to you.

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Consent
Everything we do is within full, mutual consent. I will not make assumptions; I ask first.
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Choice
I give you suggestions, based on my intuition, but you choose. It’s your experience after all.
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Check-ins
I regularly check in with you on how you're doing. You can always express if you want to change something.
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Complete presence
When I'm with you, I'm with you. Unwavering presence is the key to creating a container that's as safe as possible.
 

Talk first?

Working on yourself, facing your shadows, maybe even owning some hidden desires can bring things up. As an experienced Personal Leadership coach and tantrika, with knowledge of the nervous system and how trauma works, my aim is to create a space that's as safe as possible.

Please know that the intention is not to 'fix' anything; you're already whole. When I use the word' healing', it's not me doing the healing: it's you. I'm merely a vessel.

Even though this work can be therapeutic, I am not a therapist. If you have any deep, unresolved trauma, I recommend you see a professional therapist first.

Feeling a little hesitant still? Book a free 30-minute consultation first. No strings attached.

 
“Feeling whole and liberated starts on the inside. With you. Instead of thinking your way to it, how about making a new imprint through embodying your fullest expression?”

Here's how it works

Intake
Let's arrive in the space first; knowing we're about to embark upon a very intimate journey, it's crucial to establish rapport. I will then start the intake during which I ask you a lot of questions to know your desires and boundaries, physical health, potential injuries and so on. We will go over a pretty extensive list involving different types of BDSM practices, so you we can both give absolute clarity on what's a 'yes' and 'no'.
Intention setting
We set the intention for the session together. When engaging in a BDSM scene where power play is included, we will consciously do a ritual that will help you to surrender more, and hand over your power to me as your Dom. Yes, you'll get your power back later ;-).
Main Session
The main event will be as we designed it together, with the addition of my own creativity or you bringing your desires in. I will keep checking in with you and you will always have a say in the matter. You can stop the scene at any moment. Safety is priority.
Integration
You will get time to integrate, and I will provide you with the aftercare you need. Some holding, a blanket, a sip of water... just let me know what you need.
Closing the session
We close the session together by you getting your power back, after which you can verbally share anything you feel like sharing. This way, we both step into the world again without any strings left, while also feeling completely heard and seen. Your session will have lasted 2,5-3 hours.

If you have any other questions...

just book a free Zoom consultation or give me a call!

Online Sessions

Discover the power of online sessions if you don't have the opportunity to work with me in person

Do you feel a strong 'yes' to working with me, but is coming over in person not an option for you now? In that case, you might consider booking an online session (90 minutes).


Holistic approach
An online session can be deeply healing and transformative. Like with an in-person session, I am your guide; you go through the session. With some adjustments, you can experience the same type of practices, with massage, shibari or other touch by me as the exception.

Here's what we could do

  • Healing rituals
  • Communication exercises
  • Practices to shift beliefs
  • Visualisations & meditations
  • Bodywork with you as the giver and receiver
  • Verbal coaching
  • Teachings & transmissions

You might have your doubts now: is that going to be effective? I hear you. But let me also reassure you: I've been doing online work for years - workshops and individual sessions - and everybody is blown away by the possibilities. I will make it worth your while!